Tuesday, May 22, 2007

[MLM Survivors Club] Re: I hope I stopped my friend from being a Usana distributor

> I said "I am not trying to be a
> hater, but this is a scam." We
> have been friends for quite a long
> time. I said "I don't think you
> are stupid for using the products
> they might really be effective, but
> just don't be a distributor, and also
> you can find the products on ebay for
> way cheaper." I told her about the
> mlm-thetruth.com and this forum. I
> was so rushed to tell her why she
> shouldn't join, i kinda got an
> adrenaline rush from it. I am pretty
> sure I have convinced her not to be a
> distributor , but she is coming over
> tomorrow and I am going to give her
> the 5 Red Flags article that I
> highlithed.

A couple of thoughts pop to my mind, along with some hopefully helpful
(if un-sought-after) advice:

1) Please don't rush to tell her everything you know. Maybe it's
working, but she's probably talking to people in the business who are
convincing her not to quit. I don't know that for certain, obviously,
but since it's a possibility, you'll need to be ready to slow down a bit.

She needs to develop her own thoughts on this. Share stuff, but ASK
her what she thinks about it. Get her involved in the conversation.
Don't be a television set off in the corner that is always on but
never the focus of attention. Be an open conduit. Invite her to look
at things you've found and see what she has to say about it.

2) Be surprised and grateful if she decides not to become a
distributor. You are in a he-said-she-said situation where she can be
swayed either way by either side saying the right thing at the right
time. And don't be offended if she leans back toward becoming a
distributor, even if your initial impression is that you might have
won the race.

She may be told that you are visiting these sites and being influenced
by people who are bitter about MLM, people who didn't have what it
takes to succeed. She may be told that she is in the right place at
the right time with the right leadership and that she needs to give
her business time to get launched. Coming from people who look good
and smell good, as the expression goes, it is difficult to see truth
from deception. So she may waver back and forth for a while before
making a decision either way.

If you've succeeded in dissuading her from being involved at the
outset, you've accomplished something that many could not do for their
friends and family members. Don't expect it to go your way just from
this much.

And don't give up, either. If she's willing to come here and engage
in conversation about it, she should be able to do that. This group
is not just a group of people who moan at each other about what
happened to us. We are trying to help people gain something from our
experience. That, to me, is the best way to keep what happened to so
many of us from happening to so many more.

Good Luck to you and your friend. Let us know how things progress.

PW

__._,_.___
Recent Activity
Visit Your Group
SPONSORED LINKS
Search Ads

Get new customers.

List your web site

in Yahoo! Search.

Sitebuilder

Build a web site

quickly & easily

with Sitebuilder.

Yahoo! Groups

Start a group

in 3 easy steps.

Connect with others.

.

__,_._,___

No comments:

Post a Comment