Wow it is ironic that other people are thinking about this issue at the same time I am. For the past few months my husband and I have been trying to make the decision of whether or not he should reelist in the Navy. (he is 30 and has been in for 12 years) After this last 3 month deployment, he felt like he should get out because he missed my daughter and I too much.(it was his first time away from our 1 year old)But also he is kinda over being a Navy guy, and tired of being a nuclear engineer. (no enjoyment in his job, but great stability.
So we discussed getting out so he could follow his dream of being BMW mechanic and moving to the SF bay area so he could go to school. That meant selling our home (in this market), and moving in with the in laws. We felt like we would be happy being together although we would be broke as hell. (a child, going to school, and part time jobs only) So I guess here is where the battle between emotions and logic kicks in.
If we got out, he would not miss us because of the 6 months deployments. We would move to the bay and he would finally start working on what he really wants to do. BUT...we would be broke, unsure of whether he would be a BMW mechanic, have no medical insurance, and actually be away from each other more cause we would both be going to school and working part time.
If he stays in, he will be gone for 6 months every year, missing his daughter grow. BUT... we would keep our house, have medical insurance, and get a fat reenlistment bonus.
We just recently (yesterday) made the decision to stay in. (after watching the movie Fun with Dick and Jane!)
I guess it was a lesson on making logical vs emotional decisions. (trust me, we are very emotional people, who would rather be happy than wealthy) BUT it would not have been a wise decision. We are now becoming more thankful for what we have because we almost lost it.
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> I think that when choosing a career your family and your dreams are more important than
> money and what most people consider as success. My Grandfather, who was first on
> Guadalcanal during WWII told me that he considered that success is measured by the
> number of people that you have convinced to live a peaceful life. Success is not about
> making money or having more than another person does. That kind of pursuit is fruitless.
> The American soldiers on Guadalcanal were a success because they treated the Islanders
> and their Enemy, the Japanese, in a good manner. Therefore the Islanders actually helped
> the American Soldiers. The Japanese soldiers that assumed that the American Soldiers
> would kill them when captured, found out after they were captured the American Soldiers
> treated them with great respect. Since they were emaciated and abandoned by the other
> Japanese they were fed and clothed and often assisted the Americans in defeating the
> Japanese by providing them with accurate information.
>
> A person can have a happy life and be utterly poor. Look at me for example. I am poor in
> the Eyes of man. However, many people think that I am rich because I have a rich
> investment in my family.
>
> Also, when others are drinking, smoking, and doing drugs, all of that creates expenses
> that sends a person into poverty in many ways, including financial. Saving money often
> makes a person financially wealthy. Wealth is always by comparison. In relation to
> another person. A person may have a nice car but they have had to go into debt to get it.
>
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