On Sunday 20 May 2007, Dawn _ wrote:
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> <<I beg to differ here, also. First off, many people have emotional
> needs. EVERYONE has SOME kind of emotional needs. It's part of being
> human. We have emotional needs from the time we are born. In saying
> "the short and accurate answer is that such a person has emotional
> needs that are not fulfilled" makes it sound like everyone who has
> been with an MLM or is currently with an MLM is some kind of
> emotional freak that stalks people. We're not, and I don't think you
> are either; the average person isn't. I joined MLM's (all but one
> were a waste of my time and money) because I thought I could make
> some money, because that's the way they were pitched and I thought
> there was some relevance behind them. But I wasn't some sad sack of
> an emotional pile of dung; I have needs (i.e. paying my bills,
> wanting to fee my kids), but I'm not "needy". And there are many
> MLM'ers out there who aren't. You were in an MLM at some point
> yourself. Does this mean you were emotionally needy? Probably not. It
> just means, that, like me, you, if only for a moment or a few years,
> were introduced to something you thought you could make into
> something that produces in income. We both obviously made that
> mistake.
>
> Secondly, money and logic have a LOT to do with it, because the
> reason most people get involved in an MLM is for the money. Or for
> the money they are told (usually through lies and deception) that
> they will make. And, it appears logical for a time, at least.
> Although with most MLM's as time goes on, the logic starts to
> disappear once the MLM'er sees the truth behind the scam.>> Terra
Humans make decisions based on emotions. Yes, sometimes there is logic
involved and with some of us we focus on the logic behind what is going
on, but that is rare. If we were logical first and emotional second,
then there would be no reason the new Jeep Cherokees look like Hummers.
Most people that have 4WD vehicles would have 2WD drive instead.
That's just a simple example.
Making a decision for an emotional reason does not mean someone is an
emotional pile of dung. To say you did not make these decisions
because of any emotional reasons is kidding yourself. One point of
that is to re-read your response. It is a rather strong emotional
reaction, especially this part:
> makes it sound like everyone who has
> been with an MLM or is currently with an MLM is some kind of
> emotional freak that stalks people.
I never said or implied that. I learned, in the years I worked in
treatment, though, that when people make a strong or overreactive
inference from a statement like that and respond just as strongly,
there is something behind it they are not seeing in themselves. That
statement much have touched something quite deep in you or you would
not have reacted so strongly with loaded words and phrases
like "emotional freak", "stalks people", "sad sack", and "emotional
pile of dung."
I'm not saying you're in need of therapy or that you are any of those
terms that you've used, but such a strong response to a statement I
kept in almost clinical neutrality does remind me of the
statement, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
People don't overreact unless what they're responding to touches them
more deeply than they want to realize.
Oh, and keep the record straight. I never actually joined an MLM. I
was in the group for about a week and a half. I was at one meeting and
sold two plastic cans of metal polish. Why didn't I stay? I liked the
idea I could make money but as I watched the group, I realized a
certain type of behavior was expected out of the people involved and
that I would not be able to keep up such a front for very long because
it just wasn't me.
That I was or wasn't in does not prove or disprove I was emotionally
needy. There were emotional reasons to be involved, including
security, the ability to impress my then fiancee with money, and so on.
There were also emotional and logical reasons to quit.
Hal
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