MLM Survivors Club: [MLM Survivors Club] Re: Quixtar/Worldwide Group

Jenna I may have some insight here. I got involved with Quixtar as
a 20 year old college student. I was in for over 2 years and my
parents were actually a huge help in getting me out. Like your son
I spent all my extra money on CD's, products, and gas money to drive
all over to show the plan to new prospects. I ended up being a
model IBO and even spoke at open meetings and team meetings.

I got in business right before my junior year of college. I had a
3.5 cumulative GPA at a flagship state university at the time. My
first semester jr year I pulled a 2.5 GPA and second semester was a
pitiful 0.95 (cumulative was stil around 3.0). I dropped out of
school after that semester to get a full-time job and focus on my
business with only 23 hours left to graduate. I stopped associating
with my friends who weren't in and burned all my bridges. I'm sure
you understand how my parents felt!

After a year and a half of working in sales, I quit the business and
re-applied to the same university. I will be finishing my degree
this year. I say my parents played a huge part in this process.

My parents basically did 2 things when they found out I was in
Quixtar. 1) They cut financial support and told me I was on my own.
2) They remained emotionally supportive (this is huge).

By cutting financial support I had to take responsibility for my
finances. Balancing my own checkbook and supporting myself made me
realize what a bad deal the business was for my bank account, as
well as to the people I was showing the plan to.

My biggest tip to you is remain supportive of your son. Much to his
uplines delight, has burned all his bridges and staked his future on
Quixtar. As his parent, you can provide a back door and a way out
for him. I guarantee he has thought about quitting in the back of
his mind. I know I did, even when showing the plan to 50 or more
people at our open meeting.

One thing that kept me in so long is the fact that I quit school and
told all my friends that I was going to be rich so it didn't
matter. The thought of quitting Quixtar and "starting over" with
school and my life plans was really scary. However, I knew my
parents would be supportive and help me if I decided to quit. They
were in a sense my back up plan, my only way out.

I would suggest you tell your son he is on his own financially if he
continues to build Quixtar. Best way to do this without
being "negative" is to to simply say if you're adult enough to run a
business you should be adult enough to support yourself. Also tell
him that if he ever decides to quit that you will be there to help
him redirect his life whatever way he chooses. Tell him you will
support him with anything he chooses to do, Quixtar or not (God
knows his upline and business friends won't). Plant that seed and
let it grow. When he maxes out all of his credit cards, is 4 months
late on rent (like I was!), and his business hasn't grown in 6
months; his other life options will look much better and he will
come looiking for a way out. If you're there as a support (rather
than a person he is trying to prove wrong) it will aid his decision
to quit.

One other thing... if you talk negatively about Quixtar or any
aspect of it he will stop listening to you, period. He is being
trained to not listen to negativety, even from parents. I had 5
people in my group drop out of college as well. I was a tool in
training them not to listen to negative parents. If you want to
have any credibility at all in his decision making be supportive
(doesn't mean you have to give him money though).

Best of luck and Happy New Year!