MLM Survivors Club: Re: [MLM Survivors Club] Re: Quixtar/Worldwide Group

On Monday 31 December 2007, matthew7_15 wrote:
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> My parents basically did 2 things when they found out I was in
> Quixtar. 1) They cut financial support and told me I was on my own.
> 2) They remained emotionally supportive (this is huge).
>
> By cutting financial support I had to take responsibility for my
> finances. Balancing my own checkbook and supporting myself made me
> realize what a bad deal the business was for my bank account, as
> well as to the people I was showing the plan to.
>
> My biggest tip to you is remain supportive of your son. Much to his
> uplines delight, has burned all his bridges and staked his future on
> Quixtar. As his parent, you can provide a back door and a way out
> for him. I guarantee he has thought about quitting in the back of
> his mind. I know I did, even when showing the plan to 50 or more
> people at our open meeting.
>
> One thing that kept me in so long is the fact that I quit school and
> told all my friends that I was going to be rich so it didn't
> matter. The thought of quitting Quixtar and "starting over" with
> school and my life plans was really scary. However, I knew my
> parents would be supportive and help me if I decided to quit. They
> were in a sense my back up plan, my only way out.
>
> I would suggest you tell your son he is on his own financially if he
> continues to build Quixtar. Best way to do this without
> being "negative" is to to simply say if you're adult enough to run a
> business you should be adult enough to support yourself. Also tell
> him that if he ever decides to quit that you will be there to help
> him redirect his life whatever way he chooses. Tell him you will
> support him with anything he chooses to do, Quixtar or not (God
> knows his upline and business friends won't). Plant that seed and
> let it grow. When he maxes out all of his credit cards, is 4 months
> late on rent (like I was!), and his business hasn't grown in 6
> months; his other life options will look much better and he will
> come looiking for a way out. If you're there as a support (rather
> than a person he is trying to prove wrong) it will aid his decision
> to quit.
>
> One other thing... if you talk negatively about Quixtar or any
> aspect of it he will stop listening to you, period. He is being
> trained to not listen to negativety, even from parents. I had 5
> people in my group drop out of college as well. I was a tool in
> training them not to listen to negative parents. If you want to
> have any credibility at all in his decision making be supportive
> (doesn't mean you have to give him money though).

You've made some great points and made them differently than anyone else
on this group has made.

Could you talk more about how a parent can be supportive even when they
are repulsed by QS? Along with that, how can a parent be supportive of
their child without being a cheerleader for QS and encouraging their
child to spend more money on the system?

Hal