MLM Survivors Club: Re: [MLM Survivors Club] Re:Friend on Quixtar

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Re: [MLM Survivors Club] Re:Friend on Quixtar

On Thursday 13 December 2007, Stephen Dropp wrote:
> I think this may help a little bit. Have him ask the people around
> him how long they have been in "the business". I am sure a lot of
> them have been in for years. Why aren't they millionaires yet? It is
> a 3-5 year plan right? Anybody that has been in it for 3+ years
> should be stinking rich. Why are they still in the stands at the
> meetings and not on the stage telling their stories?

That's a good idea. There is a downside and I'll present it and see how
we can counter it. The king pins (or king pimps) "train" people to
blame themselves. This is also the kind of thing people do in abusive
marriages. If a husband is abusive, he blames it on his wife ("You
made me hit you. You know when supper is late I get angry and have to
hit someone. It's your fault!"). In this case, they know most people
will fail, so they teach them to blame themselves. ("This is the
greatest opportunity ever and if it's not working, then you're not
working hard enough!")

Many people will say something like, "I've been in 5 years, but it just
hasn't worked for me because I haven't worked hard enough."

One possible counter is to ask people what they have done. If you're
there with someone, start with that. Build up a base of this person
talking about how good they are at it, how hard they've worked, at the
sacrifices they've made, then, when they are talking about all that and
how hard they've worked, ask how long they've been in.

That builds up an image of years of work and not making it, as opposed
to allowing them to say, "I just didn't work hard enough."

Hal