Hello
You might try getting hold of Steve Hassan's books on helping people involved in cults - Combatting Cult Mind Control is very good. I was in Amway and I clearly remember the 'I'll show them' mindset when family and friends advised me to quit. I wasn't making money, only spending money, but my upline were counselling to "keep on keeping on, success is just around the corner, remember the goldminer who quit and the next day his friend struck gold..." The longer you've been going down the wrong road, the harder it is to admit it to yourself, let alone anyone else.
What got me out in the end was meeting someone, now my husband, and realizing that I wanted to spend a weekend with him rather than at a AMO meeting. I started disengaging from it soon after.
Best wishes,
Helen
NeShell Eva Patten <trekkiebear@
Shana, thank you for sharing your story and for your empathy and
understanding.
Hal, thanks for your long post back and great advice.
Vicki, thank you for your words too. They're a good swift kick and the
butt and believe me, I know that I'm partly responsible for letting
things get this far.
It's amazing how things like this get worse while you're dealing with
every day life. I just didn't realize how deep we'd sunk into this.
Maybe I didn't want to believe it. I think it's also partly because I
wanted to believe in him. I wanted him to succeed and I want him to be
happy. But I also want him to love me and our family more than he
loves Primerica.
He wants riches and the recognition of "going across the stage" and
getting the ring or the watch with the diamonds. I will gladly
exchange that for a lifetime of just being financially responsible. I
just don't know how to get him to trade his blinged out dreams with my
more mundane reality.
Hal's words have stuck with me. I wonder if Arnold will blame me for
what he will believe "might have been?" I wonder if there's a
counselor who specializes in this sort of thing as well as relationships.
I wonder if he'll really choose this business over us? I am definitely
prepared to split if he does, but wow, I never thought it would come
to this.
Again, only time will tell. 3 1/2 months to go.
Thank you all again, so much. It means more than a few typed words can
say.
Shelly : )
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