Hi!
Thank you for posting such a heartfelt message.
You are right in one respect - the name of the MLM really isn't important (though I doubt
you will find any supporters on this list!!). The effects of being in these types of
organization are pretty much the same across the board.
When people have been in these organizations for a longer period of time the effects can
be fairly traumatic. Feelings of guilt for having "failed", the loss of "friends" and the
economic cost of having paid lots of money in with very little return can all add up to a
very nasty feeling of failure.
The truth is almost the exact opposite. These systems are not engineered so that you can
"win". They are designed merely to keep you in and paying while making a lot of
distractive noise about what could be just round the corner if only you 'believe'.
As PW is fond of saying - the people running these things are very, very professional at
this game. They know how to manipulate and to motivate and they use those tools with
absolutely no sense of guilt or responsibility. This was a game you could not win from the
very start. It may not help the way you feel right this second but feelig a sense of failure
over this is like feeling like you're a failure for not winning the Powerball.
AS for "hanging in there and paying down the debt" - I have something to say on this. If by
"hanging in there" you mean staying with this organization, DON'T DO IT! This
organization is not a solution for anything.
I do suggest that you talk over what should be done about paying down the debt. You may
be surprised - your spouse may feel it is far better for all if you just worked on those
things you feel would be more productive for the family and for yourself, rather than try
and pay it off by yourself.
I do hope you have broken completely away from this blood and life sucking organization.
If you haven't I heartily suggest you do so immediately - and don't look back.
Your struggle in darkness is over - now's the time to enjoy the walk out into warmth and
light.
Mick
--- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
>
> I'm new here, originally got burned by Equinox as a young college student. I had no clue
> what i was getting into, nor did I know what an MLM was. I joined another MLM 5 years
ago
> and I'm still in it. I won't say with what company, I feel like there would be backlash
from
> any supporters. I am finally thinking on my own, and I don't need anymore BS from the
> uplines making all the dough.
>
> I've been having doubts for a long time. I honestly believed I could make money just
selling
> the products. I've learned that it is not about selling the products, but selling "the
> opportunity.
> with me. I just accumulated my own debt, thinking I could just be a passionate
saleswoman
> and live the dream of staying home with my kids. I've been in for 5 years, telling my
> husband "just one more season" to get out of debt. I cannot make a profit unless I sign
> people under me and I refuse to do that. I'm grateful that I haven't ruined any
friendships
> along the way, never asked them to do parties for me. I'm beginning to see the light,
and
> I'm just very sad about all of this...sad that my dream failed, sad that I put my family
aside,
> sad that the sugar-sweetness of this company and all those people is at my expense. I
> really believed in all of this, and when I see our CEO smile, I wonder if he/she knows
that we
> are broke (financially) and broken (emotionally) at the bottom.
>
> I want to hang in there and work down this debt. Why should my husband work any
harder
> to clean up my mess? On the other hand, my time could be spent doing more productive
> things for my family. I need to break the ties and realize that I was betrayed and lied to.
I'm
> glad I found this board, I need to hear the truth, no matter how much it hurts.
>
>
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