On Wednesday 20 December 2006 03:11, harhar35 wrote:
> I feel this is a cult, and we separated once before because of it,
> but he is back in it again after 8 years being out of it. I put an
> ultimatiam to him, either me or Quixtar, and he chose Quixtar in the
> heat of the moment but I know I cannot reason w/ him...... He is so
> emeshed in it that he cannot see the forest for the trees, and
> finally figured that it it has a cult-like hang over him. WHAT DO I
> DO????
First, separate your finances 100% so he can't start spending your money
and, if possible, limit what he can spend on any join accounts so he
can't ruin you as well as himself.
On the bigger issue, you have to make your own decision. He made a
choice that tells you he values Quixtar. It is well worth your time to
evaluate that and ask if there's a chance he'll leave or even listen to
other points of view on the topic. If he's that far in, and it sounds
like it, then, whether brainwashed or not, he's making a choice to
stick with it. Can you live with that? Is that the kind of
relationship you deserve? Or do you feel you deserve a relationship
with a man who thinks on his own and values you over a cult? To be
honest, by picking Quackstar, it sounds like he's made that choice for
you.
We're here to help and can offer ideas and support, but there are some
decisions you have to make for yourself.
Hal
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