Yes, I know I have to make the choices, and he now has
gotten back into after a 8 year haitus with it. I
cannot reason with him. It is cult-like that is for
sure, for him at least how I see it. He has an uncle
who is an Emerald, so that too has a hold over him.
It's hard, and we separated once over it, and it may
happen again, sadly.
Thank you....
--- Hal Vaughan <hal@thresholddigita
> On Wednesday 20 December 2006 03:11, harhar35 wrote:
> > I feel this is a cult, and we separated once
> before because of it,
> > but he is back in it again after 8 years being out
> of it. I put an
> > ultimatiam to him, either me or Quixtar, and he
> chose Quixtar in the
> > heat of the moment but I know I cannot reason w/
> him...... He is so
> > emeshed in it that he cannot see the forest for
> the trees, and
> > finally figured that it it has a cult-like hang
> over him. WHAT DO I
> > DO????
>
> First, separate your finances 100% so he can't start
> spending your money
> and, if possible, limit what he can spend on any
> join accounts so he
> can't ruin you as well as himself.
>
> On the bigger issue, you have to make your own
> decision. He made a
> choice that tells you he values Quixtar. It is well
> worth your time to
> evaluate that and ask if there's a chance he'll
> leave or even listen to
> other points of view on the topic. If he's that far
> in, and it sounds
> like it, then, whether brainwashed or not, he's
> making a choice to
> stick with it. Can you live with that? Is that the
> kind of
> relationship you deserve? Or do you feel you
> deserve a relationship
> with a man who thinks on his own and values you over
> a cult? To be
> honest, by picking Quackstar, it sounds like he's
> made that choice for
> you.
>
> We're here to help and can offer ideas and support,
> but there are some
> decisions you have to make for yourself.
>
> Hal
>
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