I'm going to try, very, very hard, to be nice and polite and hope others
will do the same, but overall, there are some things in here that I
find unsettling.
I'll start with making a point about courtesy: this is a particular type
of group and you've come in without so much as a "Hi, guys, I'm here to
check this out" and you're using a no_reply address when, at the least,
you could have created a GMail, Yahoo, or Hotmail account to use for
posting, so it seems a bit rude to me that you're jumping in here
without a greeting or introduction or any way to have proper 2-way
communication and the first thing you do is criticize someone who is
quite clearly in pain.
On Monday 17 March 2008, rubyshamrock4 wrote:
> "Why would you need a face kit for a gift after surgery?"
>
> Why would someone need flowers or a card after surgery? Her sister
> was simply giving her a gift and because she chose to share a product
> that she represents and sells, she is wrong for doing so? I don't
> think sharing the gift of a face kit is so bad...
The point is that this should have been about Roxy, the woman who wrote
the email. Roxy was going in for *HEART SURGERY*. No matter how
routine it is these days, going in for it is scary. Such a person is
going to need all the support from their family that they can get.
This situation was about Roxy, not her sister. Her sister made at
least four mistakes 1) She made it clear Arbonne was more important to
her than her own sister needing heart surgery by saying she might not
be able to come buy much. 2) She didn't even care enough to bring in a
full package (although, now, we know that her husband is quite wealthy,
so cost would have been no issue). She brought in only 3 pieces of a 5
piece set, which basically means she was giving her sister left overs.
3) By bringing in Arbonne products, instead of focusing on what was
appropriate for a person recovering from surgery, she made the
situation about her instead of Roxy. 4) When Roxy went to tell her
about the surgery, the whole conversation turned into one big session
on Arbonne, not on Roxy, her fears, or her need for comfort.
What's wrong with all that? By saying she's too busy, it's making it
clear that Arbonne is more important to her than serious surgery on her
own sister (serious enough that their Father was there by Roxy's side
from a plane flight away at 6 AM).
One of the biggest things I've learned in my spiritual journey is that
we show who we want to be with our dreams. We show people who we think
we are by with what we say. We show people WHO WE ARE by our actions.
Reread this 3-4 times. It's that important. By not being there to
support Roxy, her sister was showing herself to be more worried about
Arbonne than in her own sister's health and mental well being. That is
how her sister defined herself at a time of family crisis.
That point is more important than anything about the gift. When Roxy's
sister had a chance to really come through for her, she took the chance
to play "important business person."
The biggest point, though, is that even when Roxy goes in for heart
surgery, due to the brainwashing, all her sister was able to talk about
when Roxy found out about the surgery and after was not Roxy or the
surgery, but about Arbonne.
> I can understand not wanting to be high pressured, but don't
> overreact to an act of generosity. Sure she is probably hoping you
> like the product and will buy more or agree to sell it, but be
> grateful your sister gave you something. Not everyone has family who
> is willing to do so.
That it was a sample that might also be used to convince her to join her
business makes it even colder. It's not about family and love at that
point. It's about profit. I've got family, love, and profit. I don't
want to give up any of them, but I'll keep the family and love over
profit any day.
> I have a friend who does a jewelry MLM, but I wouldn't have a fit if
> she GAVE me a gift of it at some time. I just won't plop out $1700
> to become a distributor.
Was Roxy throwing a fit about the gift?
Interesting that with all the personal issues raised in that letter that
the one thing you find to focus on is a material item...
Hal
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