Tuesday, March 18, 2008

RE: [MLM Survivors Club] Sister Dissed Her

Hi Roxy,
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

MLMs definitely have many of the traits that you see in cults (not all of them
but enough to make you go....hmmmmm). And you are right, distributors
are taught that they will run up against opposition AND they are told exactly
how to deal with them. The most common thing told to them (over and over
and over and over again) is that anyone ANYONE who doesn't support your
business is against you. Is a negative influence on your life and not
someone you need in your life. They are taught to put the business ahead
of family for now (because it will pay off later). Baby showers, anniversaries
and birthdays have been missed. Marriages and relationships have ended.

Like others have said, at this point, she's in hook/line/sinker and there's not
a whole lot you can do or say without getting blamed for something. I don't
know if I'd fan the flames any by sending the gift back...that won't
accomplish anything positive.

I'm with the person who said to keep your distance for abit. She's got to
work this out (though it could take years).

PW often says that the only thing you can really do is ask questions and be
truly interested in the answers. Questions that if she allowed herself to think
for a moment and find the actual answers, it might put a chink in the solid
hold MLM has on her. I believe there is a list somewhere of the questions to
ask....stuff like, how much money does one actually make after subtracting
expenses?

Though I've discovered from personal experience that some of these
questions are greeted with the same reactions that you got when asking
about pyramid schemes. I had a SIL in PPL and after I told her NO in no
uncertain terms she advised me that I need to be more open minded in
order to see something of value...lol. When I asked her to quantify what her
sponsor was making (rather than the typical...he's doing so well) - and if she
had proof, she sort of freaked and refused to talk to me for months.

Know that many of us can very much relate to what you are experiencing.
Always know you can find support here.
Lauren

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