Thanks to everyone who has responded to my post... I am really getting
a lot of information, although it IS discouraging to know that I can't
really help my sister with anything or get her to "see the light."
Her friends have always been a strong influence, as are most peoples'
friends, and I think that the only way she's going to break away from
this is if she ends up losing enough money that her husband notices
she's at a loss. The friends are only going to push her further into
it, and I'm sure that they are all in denial as well!
Ruby, as for your comments... I feel like you are missing the point
entirely. "I think it is a perfect way for your sister to involve you
in something she is passionate about without putting on the pressure
to buy. If you like it...you will get more I guess."
Did you read my post? Maybe you missed the entire section that I
stated she's been pressuring me from day 1 about the business and
becoming a part of it. I told her that I do NOT want to buy products,
but that I would try to help her by asking my friends, who also said
they would not like to buy or become distributors.
I also feel like you aren't backing up arguments on this company being
"viable." Where are the facts that support this argument? I am eager
to read them.
-Roxy
--- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
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>
> Hi Roxy,
> I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
>
> MLMs definitely have many of the traits that you see in cults (not
all of them
> but enough to make you go....hmmmmm)
> are taught that they will run up against opposition AND they are
told exactly
> how to deal with them. The most common thing told to them (over and
over
> and over and over again) is that anyone ANYONE who doesn't support your
> business is against you. Is a negative influence on your life and not
> someone you need in your life. They are taught to put the business
ahead
> of family for now (because it will pay off later). Baby showers,
anniversaries
> and birthdays have been missed. Marriages and relationships have ended.
>
> Like others have said, at this point, she's in hook/line/sinker and
there's not
> a whole lot you can do or say without getting blamed for something.
I don't
> know if I'd fan the flames any by sending the gift back...that won't
> accomplish anything positive.
>
> I'm with the person who said to keep your distance for abit. She's
got to
> work this out (though it could take years).
>
> PW often says that the only thing you can really do is ask questions
and be
> truly interested in the answers. Questions that if she allowed
herself to think
> for a moment and find the actual answers, it might put a chink in
the solid
> hold MLM has on her. I believe there is a list somewhere of the
questions to
> ask....stuff like, how much money does one actually make after
subtracting
> expenses?
>
> Though I've discovered from personal experience that some of these
> questions are greeted with the same reactions that you got when asking
> about pyramid schemes. I had a SIL in PPL and after I told her NO
in no
> uncertain terms she advised me that I need to be more open minded in
> order to see something of value...lol. When I asked her to quantify
what her
> sponsor was making (rather than the typical...he'
and if she
> had proof, she sort of freaked and refused to talk to me for months.
>
> Know that many of us can very much relate to what you are experiencing.
> Always know you can find support here.
> Lauren
>
>
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