> Thanks to everyone who has responded to
> my post... I am really getting a lot of
> information, although it IS discouraging
> to know that I can't really help my sister
> with anything or get her to "see the light."
> Her friends have always been a strong
> influence, as are most peoples' friends,
> and I think that the only way she's going
> to break away from this is if she ends up
> losing enough money that her husband notices
> she's at a loss. The friends are only going
> to push her further into it, and I'm sure
> that they are all in denial as well!
This is how many MLMs work. They abuse the trust we have in our
friends and family and build up the new trust we create (or is created
for us) in the new "friends" we make in our business. And if we
manage to bring friends and family into the business, they use that
existing trust to turn us against those who said "no."
Some of our friends (my wife's and mine) simply had to wait it out
until we quit. Some of them had even said, "We'll see you in five
years or so." They could not have been more right.
Sadly, some people stay involved far longer than five years.
But I think the only way to get someone to reconsider the wisdom of
what they're doing, critically, is to ask them the questions they
should be asking themselves. Once they realize what has been
happening, it's truly like "seeing the light," like "watching the fog
lift."
There are steps and stages involved in leaving an MLM, too, so the
best thing you can do, even if you're unable to get through to your
sister, is to be there when she quits. *This* is how you can help!
Be loving and accepting. Don't offer anything resembling "I told you
so." She is going to be going through feelings of guilt and
inadequacy. We hear it here all the time: "How could I have been so
stupid as to have fallen for this scam, even as my friends (or in this
case, sister) were telling me to beware of it?"
You may not be able to help her get out sooner, but you can help her
through the post-MLM process. As long as you can understand what
she's going through, she will value your support. We are here,
primarily, to facilitate and support that.
PW
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