I think MLM creates the low self-esteem. Especially when you have
some director calling you to "motivate" you in to selling that dream
to someone because they "need" it. Or the company sending you emails
of these other top consultants that "won" trips and cars and
diamonds. Or the unit "booking" events where you sit around and call
everyone you know to book a show but all your friends and family turn
you down. Or the feeling that if you run out to get a gallon of milk
you had better be in a business suit and talking about the business
to the cashier and fake it til you make it by telling her how
successful you are.... because if you aren't making those millions,
you MUST not be trying hard enough.
And when you hear that stuff all the time, you buy into it all and you
do feel bad for not "working your business" 24/7. And you start to
think that it IS you not working hard enough if all these other
(women) are earning that Mustang or trip to Hawaii or whatever. If
it's so "easy" then you must be lazy or stupid that you can't do it
too...
So I don't think that the self-esteem issues come first (in all
instances), but it is definitely a product of the hogwash they shovel
at you day in and day out.
And they get you to lie so often that it makes sence that you would
start to feel bad about yourself...
Like lying to your spouse because "it's easier to ask forgiveness than
permission..
Or lying to a stranger and telling them they look like a "sharp woman"
and that is why you think they would be a perfect fit for your
business.
Or lying to a variety of strangers and telling them that you are
successful at this, when you know darn well that you have $3,000 wort
of inventory in your basement that you can hardly give away for free,
let alone SELL it.
It's all the lies and deception that build up inside you that lead to
the lack of self-esteem, the depression, etc. Because on SOME level,
you KNOW you are lying to people and being dishonest. And that
creates a struggle within you because you are not one to lie, and you
have been telling yourself that you are lying to "help" people...
because we ALL want to HELP people, right?
See where I am going with this????????
Vicki
--- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
<steve.indepass@
>
>Now tell me you don't recognise lack of self-esteem in those quotes?
If you do, are we saying that MLM takes happy, self-assured people and
turns
them into
people who feel worthless and ashamed?
Or does it prey on people who struggle with that in the first place? I
think
it's an
important question to ask - even if it's not a comfortable one.
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