Yes, I realize that, and I posted it in hopes that someone would be
able to use something from my experience, however little. And I
forgot to mention! I found the posts from the former higher-level
pins (4000 PV, 7500 PV, platinum, emerald) extremely helpful in terms
of "building credibility" (ha! I still talk like an IBO) with your
loved one who no longer wants to listen to you. Yes, it is SO
frustrating to have your beloved brother tell you, "You don't learn
how to be wealthy from someone who isn't wealthy. These Diamonds are
wealthy, so I'll only listen to them." But if you at least talk about
a higher-level pin who left the business because they learned about
some shady things, then it would help plant seeds of doubt. Deb's
story was especially helpful, seeing as how her grandfather helped
found Amway!
Other tips that may be helpful:
1) Do NOT talk at all about the MLM with your loved one! The worst
thing you can do is ask questions because they will get disgusted with
you. It sounds ugly, but it's the truth -I was once an IBO, too. The
brainwashing CDs have already negated you by warning the IBO that
"your parents just won't understand".
2) Pretend the MLM doesn't even exist. However, every now and then you
can casually drop some news about a Diamond or Emerald who resigned.
3) Unconditional love goes a very, very long way. Caution! This does
not mean enabling the person, but treating him/her as an independent
individual, with all the responsibilities it entails (that is, they
pay their own way for everything). If they try to use emotional
blackmail to hit you up for money, make a reference to their so-called
independence: "Oh? But you are an Independent Business Owner. That
means you should be independent. And besides, you don't want broke
money from a broke person." *smile* I think it's okay to recognize
birthdays and the usual holidays, though.
~*~*~*~*~*~*
pray and imagine that your beloved one has left the MLM. FEEL how
joyful you are to have him or her back again and sharing that bond you
had. It feels so wonderful to be spending time together and
communicating together, doesn't it? Oh, how you have missed your
beloved, and your beloved has missed you, too. The two of you are now
closer than ever before.*~*~*
this image, and feel these emotions as if it has already occurred! You
can do it twice a day, but at least do it once a day. Send your love
to the person. This simple act truly works miracles.
Blessings,
Nhung
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>
> --- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
> <chandranova@
> >
> > Hello all,
> >
> > Here is my story:
> >
> > My brother joined Quixtar sometime in 2005 and didn't really get into
> > it until after his first function (which he kept raving about). When
>
> My son joined in 2005 also, and doesn't show any sign of "seeing the
> light". Unfortunately, I did not find this site until I had already
> alienated him. I can't ask him any questions, he has deemed the
> subject of "his business" off limits. As some of you may remember,
> he has thrown thousands of dollars away on product, seminars and cd's.
> He has been convinced that college is a waste of time and that he
> will be extremely wealthy by following this plan.
>
> I know you are trying to help, but I think that your story might be
> quite unique. I think most of us (family members or friends) are at
> the end of our ropes and our loved one has labeled us the enemy.
>
> My strongest advice to anyone starting this journey. Go gently, the
> mind control that the AMO's practice has a stronger hold on your loved
> one than you do. Go informed, what I have learned in the few months I
> have been reading these postings is invaluable.
>
> Good luck.....Jenna
>
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