Hello all,
Here is my story:
My brother joined Quixtar sometime in 2005 and didn't really get into
it until after his first function (which he kept raving about). When
he moved in with me in 2006, he kept going on and on about the
Business. I went to an "open meeting" just to humor him and was not
impressed. Nevertheless, after a while, I was still curious about
what he was so excited about, and so listened to the CDs and read the
books. I especially ate up the books because I love reading, and
self-help books appeal to me. This really impressed my brother, who
wasn't reading the books quite as fast as I. Slowly, I became
indoctrinated by the CDs that my brother would always make me listen
to when I rode with him in his car, and so I decided to give it a
second try at another open meeting. I think the CD that most
influenced me to join my brother was the Jackie Baker CD (I think it
was titled "Product of Your Environment"
husband's determination to go Diamond and decided to support him even
though she wasn't sure what the business was all about. Oh, and the
CDs also talked about going on faith a lot of the time, which I'm sure
had to do with a lot of it. In the same way as Jake Baker, my brother
is a very goal-oriented guy. I'm very close to him and wanted to be a
supportive sister, so I jumped on board, as much as I didn't like the
pyramidal business model. Well, 3 months pass, during which I attend
one function and came away very unimpressed. THIS is what every IBO
keeps ranting and raving about? What a stupid way to do business.
But I shut up and pretended to be really enthused. Pretending led to
reality, and I really did get into the business. I was sort of
fanatical about it, even more so than my brother. Actually, I
attribute my enthusiasm during my time as an IBO to being able to
extract my brother from the Q cult.
Then one day, my inner voice screamed at me to go back and take a look
at the research. After going to my first open meeting, I had already
done my research, but found it inconclusive, since both sides seemed
biased. I didn't know who to believe. And, during my second meeting
the presenter gave the analogy of the gym membership: "If you pay for
a gym membership and don't lose weight, whose fault is it? Yours, of
course. Well, the business works the same way. Anyone who speaks
negatively about the business is a quitter and a sore loser, and
aren't worth listening to." So that disclaimer effectively shut off my
doubts, at least for the moment. Thank goodness some of my prospects
decided to question me with research they found had. At the time, I
thought, how dare they waste my time when all I'm trying to do is help
them?? But it was they who helped me: in my attempt to do damage
control, I went online to take a look at the negative things that the
"sore losers" were saying that were hurting my efforts to build my
business. What I found planted seeds of doubt in my mind, so I asked
my upline and mentor what to do. He responded, "well, take a look at
the team. Take a look at our character. Ask yourself, are we the
kind of people who would do all these things? Anytime you have doubts,
just remember the kind of company you are in". My mentor was right: I
did think that my team had wonderful, lovable, genuinely good people.
Again, my doubts again were put to rest. The third time I questioned
the business was when I considered introducing it to this lady who was
truly struggling financially. She was really in dire straits and I
cared about her very much. I really wanted to make sure that this
business would work for her -it was really expensive doing those 250
PV and getting the tools each month!! I didn't know how she would
afford it. So I did more research, and again, had more doubts that
were put to rest by my mentor. Thankfully, I never did get to meet
with her to show her "the plan".
Finally, one day, as I was set to go out and do my 35 prospects for
the week, as promised to my mentor, I genuinely felt in my heart that
something was not right. It was then that I read Merchants of
Deception and was shocked to see that everything in my organization:
the phrases, the mannerisms, mentality, everything in his organization
was EXACTLY duplicated in mine! Afterwards, I knew I couldn't do the
business anymore. I must note that my parents were against mine and
my brother's involvement this whole time. I once put in a CD for my
dad to listen to, and jokingly told him, "Dad, please, no criticisms,
let me get brainwashed! I need to get brainwashed for the day." My
dad is so great, he didnt' go on in his usual trashing of the
business, he just looked at me and said, "I know you are a strong
girl. You are my smart daughter, I have faith in you. I know that
you will make the right decisions." I really think this helped me
leave. My dad had been exposed to Amway before, my brother and I both
knew how much he was against it, and yet, he told me that he had faith
in me to do the right thing, and that I am strong enough to do it!
Unconditional love is so wonderful -thank you Dad! :)
So now, onto how I extracted my brother. I'm going to give you a lot
of background detail, because I think it's important. First, I did
some dream-building. Yes, those dreambuilding techniques they teach
in the business DO really work! Except that I had been using them
long before I joined the Q cult. So I put up a list of goals, one of
which was to successfully extract my brother from the Business. In
addition, I did daily visualizations of what life would be like after
my brother left the Business. I have to add that my brother really
looks up to me and has a deep respect for me. He was really happy
when I joined, and I knew that after I left, his morale crumbled
slightly, because he believed I was going to be his "taproot", his
platinum leg that would propel him towards Diamond. And all of a
sudden, his sole leg and right-hand leaves. I started questioning him:
"Knowing me, knowing how enthused I was about the business, why would
I leave all of a sudden"? He knows my character, that I'm not a
quitter and that I do things to completion. I brought all of this up
in an email I wrote him. I told him that there has to be something
really significant if I would abandon such a great multi-million
dollar business opportunity. I mentioned all the things I loved about
the business: the people, the dream-building techniques, the fact
that it made people more accountable to their word. I highlighted the
positive things and hinted that there was something deeper going on
that was more negative. (I'll post up the actual emails at a later
time.) I slowly eased into reasons why I left. Then, I emailed him
Merchants of Deception. After he had read it, I emailed some more
materials. I slowly fed him the truth. Even so, he attended a
function afterwards, because he had to know for sure. Later, he told
me the book opened his eyes going into the function. The one turning
point that really ended it for him was when Larry Winters came onstage
and repeated something that my brother had remembered from Merchants
of Deception that had come out of Dexter Yager's mouth. My brother
was so offended, he couldn't believe it. He then found out that Larry
Winters was directly mentored by Dexter Yager -and that pretty much
ended it for him.
So in summary, I believe I had some credibility with my brother
because of several factors:
-I was a very enthusiastic, fanatical IBO!
-Unlike my brother, during the one function I attended, I participated
in badgering the Diamonds, Emeralds, and high pins until the early
morning hours, after the events had ended for the night. In other
words, I showed more dedication
-Before the business, my brother knew that I had already been
practicing the dreambuilding techniques, with good results
-Prior to the business, I was already a person who liked to talk to
people and strangers, making friends with whoever I happened to meet
(which was why he thought I was born for the business in the first place)
-My brother had very high respect for me, and knew me to be a person
who perseveres, and isn't a quitter.
-I found positive things to say about the business, even when I was
saying them as a means to get him out of it
I hope this helped some people! BTW, my organization was LTD, headed
by Larry Winters. My diamond upline was Danny and Renate Snipes.
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