Humans make decisions based on emotions. Yes, sometimes there is logic
involved and with some of us we focus on the logic behind what is going
on, but that is rare. If we were logical first and emotional second,
then there would be no reason the new Jeep Cherokees look like Hummers.
Most people that have 4WD vehicles would have 2WD drive instead.
That's just a simple example.
Making a decision for an emotional reason does not mean someone is an
emotional pile of dung. To say you did not make these decisions
because of any emotional reasons is kidding yourself. One point of
that is to re-read your response. It is a rather strong emotional
reaction, especially this part:
<<Hal, after reading your reply to my opinion, I can't help but feel that your response was more of an attempt to psychoanalyze (spelling?) my emotions. I never said that I didn't make it based solely on emotional reasons. There were a LOT of emotional reasons involved, such as the love that I have for my children and family, and wanting to help provide financially for them. So, yes, I agree, there are emotions involved. Your reply, however, came across to me sounding like a blanket statement, assuming that most MLM'ers have some kind of emotional "issue" beyond that of any normal human beings with normal human emotions like yourself or me.>>
I never said or implied that. I learned, in the years I worked in
treatment, though, that when people make a strong or overreactive
inference from a statement like that and respond just as strongly,
there is something behind it they are not seeing in themselves. That
statement much have touched something quite deep in you or you would
not have reacted so strongly with loaded words and phrases
like "emotional freak", "stalks people", "sad sack", and "emotional
pile of dung."
<<I don't think my reply was strong or overreactive. To me, that sound like most men that I have known in my life (not making a blanket statement; I'm only going on the men in my life like my father, husband, school teachers, friends, etc.): that when a woman has an opinion, they are "overreacting"
I'm not saying you're in need of therapy or that you are any of those
terms that you've used, but such a strong response to a statement I
kept in almost clinical neutrality does remind me of the
statement, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
<<Do you always analyze everything this much?>> :-)
People don't overreact unless what they're responding to touches them
more deeply than they want to realize.
Oh, and keep the record straight. I never actually joined an MLM. I
was in the group for about a week and a half. I was at one meeting and
sold two plastic cans of metal polish. Why didn't I stay? I liked the
idea I could make money but as I watched the group, I realized a
certain type of behavior was expected out of the people involved and
that I would not be able to keep up such a front for very long because
it just wasn't me.
<<So your personal experience with MLM's is limited to a week and a half? It appears to me that your need to be in this group goes beyond that of being an "MLM survivor", but moreso the need to analyze and point out people's emotions and behaviors. Just my perception. Although, I do enjoy your analyses.>>
That I was or wasn't in does not prove or disprove I was emotionally
needy. There were emotional reasons to be involved, including
security, the ability to impress my then fiancee with money, and so on.
There were also emotional and logical reasons to quit.
Hal
<<What I find most interesting is that you never touched on my comment where I compared MLM's to franchises, with respect to business owners being able to make their own decisions, but that there were guidelines within the franchise agreements that need to be followed. Just wondering: what do you think about the thought that MLM'ers ARE business owners in the sense that some MLM's can be compared to a franchis set-up?>> Terra
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