I've decided that I need a better plan than just, you have so long to
make X amount of dollars by January or he has to quit.
It's amazing how just telling your story and getting support in return
can be such a relief. It's also put a measure of starch of in my
spine. I just don't feel like the same person who typed it all out. I
feel like I can do this, I can even leave him if I have to, I just
need a better plan to see this through.
Hal and one other person in my life have told me that I need to give
Arnold some kind of warning. A couple of others seem to feel that a
sudden jerk may be what he needs. But lately I've come to feel it
could leave him feeling abandoned, depressed and hopeless.
I don't want him to be wrecked. I just want him to see sense and for
us to get our lives back on track. Not the old track, but a new track
where we can live together and pay our bills.
So I need a plan. I'm kind of making this up as I go along so any
suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
I figure I need a way to tell him all this where we can't be
interrupted and where he can't run away so easily or get distracted by
home things.
I'm thinking a hotel. That I take him to a hotel for a weekend and I
just finally lay it all on the line and tell him what I think and how
I feel and what the consequences are if he can't get himself out.
If I ask him to meet me there due to our schedules, we'll have both
cars so neither one of us will be stranded if the other gets mad
enough to leave. I'm thinking two nights at an AmeriSuites or
something. Someplace where we'll have two separate spaces to sleep or
just take a break if things get heated.
I wonder if they have a room far away from the other guests?
OK, so once I get him there, what do I say? Do I lay everything on the
line with an ultimatum? Do I give him a certain amount of time to
"detox"? Should I have some books on brainwashing on hand? He loves
reading all those self help kinds of books that set my teeth on edge -
Think and Grow Rich, Rich Dad Poor Dad, How to Win Friends and Drive
Your Wife Nuts By joining an MLM. I wonder if he'll try reading a new
type of book.
Maybe I should just give him my posts from here.
But once it's all out in the open, how do we go home with it all
hanging over our heads? If we can't reach a common resolution how do
we live together, knowing that it will end?
Should I even give him a warning? Should I just plan it all myself and
have a place for him to go should the inevitable happen? Find a place
for him, give him the keys, tell him he's on his own and walk away. Or
do I let him do that himself? If I wait for him to do it, we might end
up right back where we started.
I know I'm planning just a way to tell him what I think but why does
it feel like I'm planning the end of our relationship altogether?
I guess because part of me feels that he may just choose Primerica
over me and then it will be over. That's a sad and scary thought and I
guess I have to prepare myself for the possibility but damn.
Just damn.
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