Thank you so very much, Heidi. You bring up a good point- when the
husband first called me (about the same time my daughter did) he
started saying how "psycho" my daughter was acting.... and then
later his mother was going to such lengths to tell me how badly my
daughter was and also used the term "psycho". I don't think that
per say has anything to do with quixtar, but its scary because it's
like they're making their own case, at least in their minds, why my
daughter deserved what she got.
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>
> --- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
> I've heard
> > (and I admit this is 2nd hand) stories of people around here
where the
> > police felt nothing could be done and left. There's also the
issue of
> > proving it in court. Many times someone can be arrested,
released on
> > bail, return to intimidate the witness because there's no
restraining
> > order, and then return for the court hearing and get off
because,
> > without medical records and testimony, it's a tough thing to
prove.
>
> Very true. I've also heard about the nightmare a friend had when
she
> tried to get custody of her kids from a physically and sexually
> abusive husband. He used a tactic called "parental alienation",
and
> ended up getting full custody, even almost had her thrown in jail
when
> she spoke to her kids at a public event. The full story sounds so
> unbelievable I'd think it was made up by an unstable person if all
the
> horrible details hadn't been confirmed by a lawyer who is close
> friends with this woman and accompanied her to court. Search the
term
> and become familiar with it, in case your daughter's husband tries
to
> use this tactic, too.
>
> I want to reinforce another of Hal's comments, that although your
> daughter is teaching her daughter to go to abusive men, it's not
your
> fault that your daughter did. I grew up in a stable, non-abusive
> family, but my first marriage was to a man who abused me mentally,
> emotionally, and in very subtle ways physically. I wished
sometimes
> that he *would* hit me, so that I'd have a concrete reason to
leave.
> People like him (men and women) are such good manipulators that
after
> a while, you really don't know which way is up. It took me years
of
> therapy to get back to myself.
>
> You've gotten good advice from everyone on this board. Hang in
there.
>
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