On Tuesday 17 July 2007, Mark R. Leins wrote:
> My girlfriend escaped an abusive 12-year marriage three years ago.
> The turning point for her deciding not to go back occurred once she
> took her mom's advice and entered a program at the local crisis
> center for women. They gave her a diagram referred to as the "power
> and control wheel." At least, that's what she called it. I'm not sure
> what support entity originally devised it (although there's contact
> info on this particular diagram), but it's quite the eye-opener to
> someone fully indoctrinated by an abusive spouse.
>
> I managed to find a PDF version posted here:
> http://www.duluth-
> It's about a 1.6MB download, so it may take a bit to load in.
Good diagram. Simple and makes sense. It's an interesting read and
might wake up a few people.
> I don't suggest you initially do anything with this tool other than
> educate yourself. It should be used in a professional setting with
> qualified counselors for willing participants. What you should
> realize by looking at the diagram is that this behavior pattern is
> clearly defined and documented by pros who deal with these people on
> a routine basis.
When you first used the term wheel, I thought about a wheel turning,
like a cycle, and was hoping it would show the abuse patterns over
time, including the pattern of the abuser going so far the victim
finally rebels, leading to the abuser behaving "extra nicely" for a
period of time, then slowly ramping up the abusive and controlling
behavior. I'd love to find that in print to use at times.
Hal
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