This is an example of an argument that I had with my quixtar
daughter that played out in e-mail a few months ago. As you can
see, I'm getting better at answering her how I should answer her.
Is this all normal Amway/Quixtar talk????????
(This is to my daughter from me:
I was a bit upset today by your behavior. You had told me that you
>wanted to join (my friend)and I for shopping, and that
your "guests" were going
>to leave in the morning. We sat and waited until 12:30 when we
finally
>left. I was not impressed today, I was embarassed for you and I was
not
>proud of seeing you try to sell quixtar to those girls. I have some
>questions for you: Have you NETTED any money from quixtar? Or do
you
>spend it all and more on tapes, books, traveling, and the money
quixtar
>asks you to pay to attend rallies and promotional meetings? I have
alot of
>misgivings about this stuff. I fear you are becoming brainwashed.
I've
>done some looking into it, and it's alleged that if your family are
not
>part of the quixtar "circle", you are encouraged to drop them. Have
you
>felt that or heard that? Mom
Then she wrote back:
I'm sorry you feel that way, I don't know where you get your facts
from but
that is obviously not the case since I haven't dropped you. My
finances are
really not your concern. (Husband)and I have built a very successful
business,
there is no way that I wouldn't have a job right now if we hadn't.
It's
pretty funny in my opinion that those girls drove over 4 hours to
come to
see me and asked me for help and guidance and yet I am trying to
SELL them
on the business. I felt like a broken record because I kept telling
them it
was their decision about what kind of time and money they put into
their own
business. I am sorry that you felt going shopping was more imprtant
then
helping 3 young girls who needeed some assistance. One of those girl
is a
young single mother and trying to make a better life for her son and
herself. I had one of the most successful days in the business that
day and
everyone in my life told me how proud of me they were that I was
able to
affect people in a positive way except you! You are probably right I
AM
BRAINWASHED!
when I
started in this business and I am SO glad that I have made the
postitive
changes that I have. People seek me out for support and mentoring
and love
and yet I embarrass you. The reason that people 'drop' their
families in
they don't get invloved in the business is because they have nothing
but
negivive hurtful things to say about the choices they have made. I
do not
give you a hard time for choosing not to build the business even
though of
all the people I have met and helped I see you and Dad as the ones
who could
benifit the most from the things happening but that is your choice.
Do not
share your negivitity with me I am a full time business owner I am
very
proud to be doing this and I will be doing this for life. I am sorry
if you
feel it's not a good idea but you tell me where else on earth we can
make
money have fun and make a difference and not have to have a job. I
was
pretty embarrassed of you when you said crap about (Amway mother-in-
law-from Hell) in front of team
members of mine and hers. Keep your opinions to yourself. If anyone
pushes
anyone away here it's going to be you with your negitive stuff that
you push
on me!!!!!!
Then this is what I finally wrote back with some advice from my
readings:
I'm glad we talked today, and that you know I am and always have
been and always will be proud of you. I don't like Quixtar, but
I'll always be your mom and I will always love and support you.
It's just an emotional rollercoaster for me, and I think for you
too, as you have loyalty to Quixtar and (his)family. But I do see
you drawing away and shutting me out of your life sometimes, in
subtle ways that only I could probably ever perceive, and it's very
difficult for me because I love you so very much. I think that your
trying to have success with Quixtar is like trying to paint a
sinking ship, and that it uses mind control promotional methods
designed to keep pople from thinking critically, which is what I'm
all about- thinking for yourself, and not believing everything you
hear- that's what nurses are good at. But that said, I do know that
there are good sides to Quixtar too. The Amway products are very
good products for the most part, and I will continue to use the ones
I like. From what I hear, they have really good customer service
and a good return policy. Quixtar has taught you to dream, and it
has given you some good positive thinking concepts. It has made you
aware of lots of self help and family building resources, and you
and (husband) have made some good friends and contacts, and I count
alot of those people as my friends too. I would prefer that you
find a way to build your dreams on a more stable foundation, and
knowing how great you and (the husband)both are, I can not only
imagine but KNOW the two of you could accomplish really great things
if you put those dreams and positive attitudes and hard work and
time into your own business, verses someone else's, who's ethics are
both nationally and internationally questioned. So anyway, this is
what I should have said to you if I were less exhausted and
emotional when I wrote that e-mail. I love you dearly, I love
(husband), and I love (grandchild) more than you can ever imagine,
and I'm proud of you and (husband) for the good people you are, and
I sincerely apologize from the bottom of my heart for how I said the
words to you in the e-mail. Your talking to me today made me feel
much better, and I will feel free to talk to you about my fears and
misgivings more often if I need to, and of course, I'll be happy to
attend a meeting with you sometime and go and support you and
(husband) when you become silver. (Is that the right color/) :)
Love, mom
SO- QUESTION- SHOULD I EVER ATTEND A MEETING? (DON'T REALLY WANT
TO). Any advice is appreciated.
The mom
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