Oh my goodness, this is an all to familiar email to me. It is all
MLM speak I guess. My cousin said the exact same thing to me, if you
go back and read it. She said something about keeping my "negative
opinions to myself" blah blah blah. This is really weird twisted
stuff. If only they could read what we write about them. Would
they even consider that they could be brainwashed? I mean why would
we even care if we weren't all truly affected by this stuff. (I am
not too close to that cousin in law of mine, so I told her to read
this forum)
Questions: So when do MLM people start to realize that this could
be a scheme? How do they snap out of it?
I like what Hal wrote about projection, it makes perfect sense to
me. But why are people like that? Are some people just closed
minded? If someone told me to simply question or research
the "business opportunity" I would be greatful. Instead people who
are already involved think you are judgemental and negative. That
is absolutely ignorant to me. (I know some of you were victims of
MLM's, please take no offense.) Anyway, sorry for the rambling, I
am just tripping out at the similarities between my cousin's letter
and gardeningkelly'
I confronted my cousin in law because I didn't care if we never
talked again. But I think gardeningkelly should just wait it out
and not bring up scamway/quackstar with her daughter, she could
really ruin their relationship and lose her daughter forever. Then
she would not know if that bastard husband of her's was still
beating her or their child.
--- In mlmsurvivorsclub@
<gardeningkelly@
>
> This is an example of an argument that I had with my quixtar
> daughter that played out in e-mail a few months ago. As you can
> see, I'm getting better at answering her how I should answer her.
> Is this all normal Amway/Quixtar talk????????
>
> (This is to my daughter from me:
>
> I was a bit upset today by your behavior. You had told me that you
> >wanted to join (my friend)and I for shopping, and that
> your "guests" were going
> >to leave in the morning. We sat and waited until 12:30 when we
> finally
> >left. I was not impressed today, I was embarassed for you and I
was
> not
> >proud of seeing you try to sell quixtar to those girls. I have
some
> >questions for you: Have you NETTED any money from quixtar? Or do
> you
> >spend it all and more on tapes, books, traveling, and the money
> quixtar
> >asks you to pay to attend rallies and promotional meetings? I
have
> alot of
> >misgivings about this stuff. I fear you are becoming brainwashed.
> I've
> >done some looking into it, and it's alleged that if your family
are
> not
> >part of the quixtar "circle", you are encouraged to drop them.
Have
> you
> >felt that or heard that? Mom
>
> Then she wrote back:
>
> I'm sorry you feel that way, I don't know where you get your facts
> from but
> that is obviously not the case since I haven't dropped you. My
> finances are
> really not your concern. (Husband)and I have built a very
successful
> business,
> there is no way that I wouldn't have a job right now if we hadn't.
> It's
> pretty funny in my opinion that those girls drove over 4 hours to
> come to
> see me and asked me for help and guidance and yet I am trying to
> SELL them
> on the business. I felt like a broken record because I kept
telling
> them it
> was their decision about what kind of time and money they put into
> their own
> business. I am sorry that you felt going shopping was more
imprtant
> then
> helping 3 young girls who needeed some assistance. One of those
girl
> is a
> young single mother and trying to make a better life for her son
and
> herself. I had one of the most successful days in the business
that
> day and
> everyone in my life told me how proud of me they were that I was
> able to
> affect people in a positive way except you! You are probably right
I
> AM
> BRAINWASHED!
> when I
> started in this business and I am SO glad that I have made the
> postitive
> changes that I have. People seek me out for support and mentoring
> and love
> and yet I embarrass you. The reason that people 'drop' their
> families in
> they don't get invloved in the business is because they have
nothing
> but
> negivive hurtful things to say about the choices they have made. I
> do not
> give you a hard time for choosing not to build the business even
> though of
> all the people I have met and helped I see you and Dad as the ones
> who could
> benifit the most from the things happening but that is your
choice.
> Do not
> share your negivitity with me I am a full time business owner I am
> very
> proud to be doing this and I will be doing this for life. I am
sorry
> if you
> feel it's not a good idea but you tell me where else on earth we
can
> make
> money have fun and make a difference and not have to have a job. I
> was
> pretty embarrassed of you when you said crap about (Amway mother-
in-
> law-from Hell) in front of team
> members of mine and hers. Keep your opinions to yourself. If
anyone
> pushes
> anyone away here it's going to be you with your negitive stuff
that
> you push
> on me!!!!!!
>
> Then this is what I finally wrote back with some advice from my
> readings:
>
> I'm glad we talked today, and that you know I am and always have
> been and always will be proud of you. I don't like Quixtar, but
> I'll always be your mom and I will always love and support you.
> It's just an emotional rollercoaster for me, and I think for you
> too, as you have loyalty to Quixtar and (his)family. But I do see
> you drawing away and shutting me out of your life sometimes, in
> subtle ways that only I could probably ever perceive, and it's
very
> difficult for me because I love you so very much. I think that
your
> trying to have success with Quixtar is like trying to paint a
> sinking ship, and that it uses mind control promotional methods
> designed to keep pople from thinking critically, which is what I'm
> all about- thinking for yourself, and not believing everything you
> hear- that's what nurses are good at. But that said, I do know
that
> there are good sides to Quixtar too. The Amway products are very
> good products for the most part, and I will continue to use the
ones
> I like. From what I hear, they have really good customer service
> and a good return policy. Quixtar has taught you to dream, and
it
> has given you some good positive thinking concepts. It has made
you
> aware of lots of self help and family building resources, and you
> and (husband) have made some good friends and contacts, and I
count
> alot of those people as my friends too. I would prefer that you
> find a way to build your dreams on a more stable foundation, and
> knowing how great you and (the husband)both are, I can not only
> imagine but KNOW the two of you could accomplish really great
things
> if you put those dreams and positive attitudes and hard work and
> time into your own business, verses someone else's, who's ethics
are
> both nationally and internationally questioned. So anyway, this
is
> what I should have said to you if I were less exhausted and
> emotional when I wrote that e-mail. I love you dearly, I love
> (husband), and I love (grandchild) more than you can ever imagine,
> and I'm proud of you and (husband) for the good people you are,
and
> I sincerely apologize from the bottom of my heart for how I said
the
> words to you in the e-mail. Your talking to me today made me feel
> much better, and I will feel free to talk to you about my fears
and
> misgivings more often if I need to, and of course, I'll be happy
to
> attend a meeting with you sometime and go and support you and
> (husband) when you become silver. (Is that the right color/) :)
> Love, mom
>
> SO- QUESTION- SHOULD I EVER ATTEND A MEETING? (DON'T REALLY WANT
> TO). Any advice is appreciated.
> The mom
>
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